Happiness Assassins. We all know one. I work with one. She’s in a leadership role at my job and is supposed to help me, but she terrifies me. It’s not what she’s saying, it’s how she’s saying it. And the eye rolling doesn’t help any. I’m a pretty quick learner and smart, so I know I’m not making “rookie mistakes” but sometimes I have a question and need guidance. Please don’t roll your eyes and spit an answer at me.
Her behavior reminds me of my ex. The complete and utter humiliation I feel, the fear. Any amount of self confidence or enthusiasm I had is completely destroyed. I know I give her this power by allowing her to treat me this way, but I don’t know how to correct it. Any comment made to superiors is met with “That’s just the way she is”. I hate that excuse. If you want to piss me off super fast, roll your eyes at me and then have someone tell me “that’s just the way you are”.
I don’t buy that. Every single day we can become a better person. I choose to start each day as a clean slate, and living the “golden rule” or treating others as I wish them to treat me. But what can one do when you’re faced with someone so determined to squash your good mood? I do what I can to make sure this person doesn’t see the effect they have on me. But it’s hard-some days she actually causes me to have panic attacks. I don’t understand why some people are so miserable.
I am determined to not let her behavior or anyone else’s behavior to affect my self-worth. I recognize there are probably things in her life that make her unhappy and this is how she chooses to handle that unhappiness (so true of so many people). Her behavior reflects poorly only upon herself, not me. I am responsible only for my own happiness, and I will continue to shine.
As always, feel free to comment with stories of your own experiences and any advice on dealing with happiness assassins.